Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. Bull-f***ing-shit. They are seeing the way the system hurts others, and they are looking for something that can increase connection and fulfillment in their lives. So with men in need of sex and women in need of rare or hard to get resources, in both the patriarchy and the matriarchy, this trade takes place. Hans Rosling’s talk on religion and babies, Traditional Marriage Rights Activists Website. In our society, individualism, material wealth, leisure, entertainment, traditional power, influence, and status are all highly sought after. The social part of us causes most of us to follow the crowd and to fit into whatever we identify as the pattern (whether that pattern is to be weird, to be liberal, to be odd, or to fit in). Male investment and access to their offspring both in the form of being a role model who would love, guide, and seek the best interests of their children and through their economic contributions benefited society enormously. Besides compelling men to protect their wives and children, patriarchy causes men to hesitate to assault other women and children, because of the innate masculine respect for property. For all those times I’ve troubled my mum cause she dint make something that I liked, I can never apologize enough. A glaring illustration of this can be seen in the Marquis de Sade, a communist. I’m thrilled it was such a terrible relationship!’?”. There are some who will do better in the matriarchal system, but the majority does better in the patriarchy. Gender roles still exist, but male female interaction is more limited so they only exist pre-sex. In my first social work practice class at Utah State University, a professor taught us an important lesson. The patriarchy has been successful for many reasons, and we have to be careful not to ignore some of these reasons. Liberating. This sets things up so that women are more limited than men with respect to their access to resources. So we need to maintain that balance and so we need to fight for the patriarchy to stay. The myth that men are somehow in a patriarchal utopia that helps them and oppresses women only holds up to scrutiny when we adopt capitalist, consumerist, and patriarchal norms and values. ( Log Out / Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. They often get away with lazy partnership in relationships and are given gold stars for even the bare minimum effort, so yes, for some men, particularly those who are heterosexual, white, and affluent, there are benefits that come from patriarchy and male violence. Within the framework of these values, common particularly to wealthy, white, Americans, it is easy to understand how anything that increases our individual ability to earn money and gain status or power all while minimizing our effort would be seen as a great benefit. This was also posted at Return of the Kings blog. She encouraged me to get my hands dirty. The patriarchy as we know it was not perfect, but neither is a matriarchy, and so I think we as a society need to start sifting through both systems, and it is important that as we do this we keep the parts of the patriarchal ways of structuring society that were, and can still be, beneficial to individuals and society. He was conveying to us the danger of assuming another person’s emotional state by projecting our own values or the values we consider to be common in our society onto that person. Why I think we need to fight for the Patriarchy. Most of the world’s major cultures have patriarchal roots, this is a map showing the major religions of each country as it was in 1960. I think the majority of people can actually benefit from the traditional system. Lousy men & double standards are why patriarchy exists. Patriarchy (meaning): Relating to or denoting a system of society or government controlled by men. Men suffer quite a lot in this transition, because the laws are essentially all very patriarchal and women still expect things like child-support (something which would normally only exist in a patriarchy), while they behave as though they are in a matriarchy (wanting to sleep around and still be respected, etc.). He asked the class how we might respond if a client told us that they had just broken up with their significant other the previous night. Anyone who doesn’t subscribe to feminist dogma is believed to be possess… Women work and take all the steady, easy and good jobs. Wealthy white men face victimization in America, but that victimization is not equal to the oppression many poor women of color face, for example. With this new framework we understand that the system truly benefits no one. Create a free website or blog at WordPress.com. I know a lot of MRAs do not believe this and use the draft as evidence that the patriarchy favored women more, but that is not true. Working moms STOP your nonsense, SAHM stop the nonsense!! (1) Continuity. The typical definition of power under this system is the ability to dominate, control, coerce, or wield influence over others. I mean, phew … It is with NO shame that I admit patriarchy exists very much even today and that the benefit of being a male/man is exercised by someone every now and then. (2) Patriarchy is necessary to preserve the family. It took a worldwide pandemic and a national-wide lockdown for me to realize that all those tiny basics that mum taught me is whats helping me survive today. I’ll just cook something for my mum someday, something that she likes , There is no greater freedom than to express ones own opinions In many liberal feminist circles, I have heard it said that all men, including non-violent men, benefit from male violence because it lowers the standard for “good behavior” from “being an actively affirming, loving, and engaged partner” to “not being violent or abusive”. We are in a transition from a traditional society (let’s call it the patriarchy) to a liberal-minded society (let’s call it a matriarchy). Now the patriarchy is actually not a society that favors men over women, and the matriarchy is not a society which favors women over men. Men are more likely to be hired, promoted, and paid more for the same jobs than women. Many men are waking up to the ways that the current patriarchal system is failing them, even the ones who benefit materially or individually from it. Somehow being a woman automatically meant being the responsible one in the household, The candle that lights the house, The unspoken leader. I never grew up to see my father help out in the kitchen or help in the cleaning of the house (no obvious blame on him cause he grew up in a house where the men did not get into the household works either, unless for the occasional fun of cooking).